“My spouse says I’m a workaholic, but there is so much to be done if we want the church to grow and our bills to be paid.”
“My kids say that I’m often agitated & angry with them, but I’m so emotionally exhausted from helping and leading others that I don’t have a lot of patience left for anyone else – even my family.”
“My friends say I overextend myself and don’t say no often enough, but I have a lot of people who count on me. I don’t want them to leave the church.”
“My leaders say I can be distant and hold people at an arm’s length, but I’ve been through so much hurt and learned the hard way that I can’t trust others.”
Too often, we are blinded by our “normal.” We use phrases like, “This is just who I am” or, “That’s just how it is.” While you may not relate to the specific examples above, you surely have been given constructive feedback from those who love you and legitimately want you to be your best and your healthiest.
Our behavior will make sense to us because of our life experiences. We can sometimes settle where we are comfortable, familiar, and where pain is minimal. However, not getting curious about our behaviors will compromise us in the long run and reduce the healing, freedom, and Holy Spirit power God desires for our lives.
At Blessing Ranch, we have seen that when a leader takes the time to get curious about their pain there is an incredible transformation that takes place in their life, family, ministry and leadership.
Praying for your ministry & leadership,